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When your relationship is in crisis, it becomes exhausting to keep sweeping the pain under the carpet — only to have it resurface during the next conflict. If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns and finally ready to confront what’s truly happening between you, DO YOU HATE THE ONE YOU LOVE? Strategies for Healing and Saving Your Relationship offers a path forward. This book is designed to support couples who are committed to healing, growing, and rebuilding closeness.

DO YOU HATE THE ONE YOU LOVE? illustrates a truth many couples quietly live with: oppositional feelings — love and hate — can coexist. It’s not your partner you hate. It’s the behavior that signals something is broken, something you cannot fix alone, and something that urgently needs attention.

My book provides an in‑depth exploration of how these conflicting emotions develop, how they impact communication, and how they can be transformed into deeper understanding and connection. You will learn strategies to interrupt destructive cycles, rebuild trust, and create a relationship that feels safe, supportive, and emotionally alive.

If you’re willing to do the work — individually and together — you will learn the skills to embrace and live the relational adventure.

I invite you to reach out to me if you have any questions. I am available by email at joanechilds@gmail.com, and you can visit my website at www.joanechilds.com.

The book is available in hardcover, paperback, e‑book (Kindle), and Audible.