Why Can’t A Man Be More Like a Woman?

I Hate the I Man Love

The following is from a series of excerpts from the new book by Joan E. Childs, I Hate the Man I Love: A Conscious Relationship Is Your Key to Success.

Why can’t a man be more like a woman? Essentially—because they’re not! We know all of this from biology, anthropology and social condition, and on paper it appears so damn simple, so why all the emotional fuss and perpetual problems?

In this chapter, I highlight the reasons the genders are designed by nature to be different. For all intense and purposes from time memorial men have been the warriors and the hunters and women, the chatterers and keepers of the hearth.

When Henry Higgins laments, in the Broadway production of My Fair Lady, “Why can’t a woman be more than a man?” he asks the same preposterous question as why can’t a man be more like a woman? It’s an existential conundrum that has a simple, yet complicated response. Men and women are wired differently. To suggest that one gender be more like the other would be like asking a dog to be more like a cat. However, given tools, resources and skills, men and women can learn to negotiate and enjoy their differences. It takes time, commitment and learning the art of effective communication that appears in later chapters throughout the book.

I Hate the Man I Love: A Conscious Relationship Is Your Key to Success is now available for purchase on Amazon Kindle and paperback on October 11, 2020.

Joan E Childs, LCSW is a renowned psychotherapist, inspirational speaker and author of Do You Hate the One You Love: Strategies For Healing and Saving Your Relationship. In private practice since 1978, she specializes in individual and couple’s therapy, grief therapy, EMDR, NLP, inner child work and codependency. Learn more about her services at www.joanechilds.com.