DO YOU HATE THE ONE YOU LOVE?

The moment I decided to write Do You Hate the One You Love? Strategies for Healing and Saving Your Relationship, I understood something that many authors in my profession never grasp.

After working with couples for nearly 50 years as a relationship therapist and now a relationship coach, I understood that relationships are not just about love, commitment, or compromise. It is about whose heart is healed and whose pain is acknowledged. It is about what happens when a couple must confront the unmentionable challenges, the heartbreak, and the abuse that so many experience, not just against the childhood wounds that caused them, but against the devastating moment when the one you love becomes the one you despise. I realized early on those oppositional feelings can co-exist simultaneously. I understood that the reader who has been searching for a book that captures the tension between adoration and resentment, between intimacy and isolation, who has been craving a work that weaves professional insight into a narrative that pulses with heart, honesty, and fierce hope, who has been longing for a book that asks what it means to heal, needs not a textbook but a companion. A witness. Someone who says, I have been exactly where this couple stands. I have faced a challenge that no one warned me about. I have fought to save my relationship. And when the hatred rose and the world looked away, the question was not whether I would survive. It was whether anyone would remember that the real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes. (Marcel Proust)

That is the moment a reader understands what this book is doing.

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Book Link is here: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/do-you-hate-the-one-you-love-joan-e-childs/1146580280